Spirit Animal: Golden Retriever
Motivational Driver: Avoidance
Best Traits: Loyal, nurturing
Worst Traits: Smothering, needy
Codependent Asshole Profile
You are the emotional glue in any group, warm, nurturing, and fiercely devoted. You care deeply and love hard, often putting others’ needs before your own with open-hearted generosity. Your strength lies in your willingness to stay when things get hard and you have a natural instinct to nurture even while others withdraw. Less empathetic types may accuse you of being clingy, but you know instinctively when you’re needed, even if no one else does.
You are always in tune with those you love, often before they are. When they detach, you dive deeper. Your gift is emotional availability combined with sincere commitment, and it’s the reason people feel safe around you. You thrive in connection with the people around you and always give more than you take (of course, you’ll make sure to remind them). Your relationship bonds are lifelines for the people you chose to grace with your attention. You bring comfort, loyalty, and intimacy in a way most people can only dream of. You are love, turned up to 11.
Famous Codependent Assholes
The Over-Lover: Nurturing, needs to be needed
Career Aptitude for Codependent Assholes
Teacher (especially early education): devoted to development
Nurse / Healer / Caregiver: endless emotional bandwidth
Social Work / Therapy: equipped to help people when they need it
Customer Success Manager: interprets needs before they’re spoken
Codependent Asshole Archetypes in Literature and Film
Bella Swan in Twilight
Ted Mosby in How I Met Your Mother
Ross Geller in Friends
Frodo Baggins in The Lord of the Rings
Bridget Jones in Bridget Jones’s Diary
Best Entertainment for Codependent Assholes
Games: Collaborative games (Dungeons and Dragons, Pandemic, The Voting Game)
Music: Soul, R&B ballads, soft rock, love songs
Stories: Romance and romantic comedies with emotional depth
Exercise/sports: Partner workouts (sweating together), group classes, dog walking
Other Activities: Hosting dinner parties, long therapeutic phone calls, baking/cooking, crafts, attending support circles, spa days, journaling feelings that aren't theirs, Saying “I love you” to people, animals, and plants
Ideal Purpose and Life Journey for The Codependent Asshole
The ultimate life purpose for a Codependent Asshole is to nurture relationships rooted in authenticity and mutual empowerment that produces soulful love without possession.
Along the way they will gain momentum and insight by learning emotional boundaries and modeling them, spending time alone intentionally and fruitfully, and applying their compassion to occupations for which appreciation is seldom available as fuel. With a deep understanding of “self” and a wise observance of the boundaries of others, their caregiving talents become the destination that satisfies as opposed to a path to love and admiration.
Their successful journey begins by clinging to one or more connections, dismissive of toxic behaviors, attempting to weaponize their sadness for attention, or rationalizing unrequited loves. In the end, they cultivate inclusive communities and discover they have the power to create soulful relationships that do not roller coaster with their measure of self-worth. They evolve as angels who dwell above the realms of guilt or insecurity, able to identify the people who can fulfill their needs and help build mutually beneficial bonds absent the assumptions or conditions that lead to disappointment. They are able to say no without guilt. And they are able to teach others like themselves to do the same.
Motivational Driver: Avoidance
Best Traits: Loyal, nurturing
Worst Traits: Smothering, needy
Codependent Asshole Profile
You are the emotional glue in any group, warm, nurturing, and fiercely devoted. You care deeply and love hard, often putting others’ needs before your own with open-hearted generosity. Your strength lies in your willingness to stay when things get hard and you have a natural instinct to nurture even while others withdraw. Less empathetic types may accuse you of being clingy, but you know instinctively when you’re needed, even if no one else does.
You are always in tune with those you love, often before they are. When they detach, you dive deeper. Your gift is emotional availability combined with sincere commitment, and it’s the reason people feel safe around you. You thrive in connection with the people around you and always give more than you take (of course, you’ll make sure to remind them). Your relationship bonds are lifelines for the people you chose to grace with your attention. You bring comfort, loyalty, and intimacy in a way most people can only dream of. You are love, turned up to 11.
Famous Codependent Assholes
The Over-Lover: Nurturing, needs to be needed
- Pete Davidson
- Will Smith
- Adele
- Kourtney Kardashian
- Florence Nightingale
Career Aptitude for Codependent Assholes
Teacher (especially early education): devoted to development
Nurse / Healer / Caregiver: endless emotional bandwidth
Social Work / Therapy: equipped to help people when they need it
Customer Success Manager: interprets needs before they’re spoken
Codependent Asshole Archetypes in Literature and Film
Bella Swan in Twilight
Ted Mosby in How I Met Your Mother
Ross Geller in Friends
Frodo Baggins in The Lord of the Rings
Bridget Jones in Bridget Jones’s Diary
Best Entertainment for Codependent Assholes
Games: Collaborative games (Dungeons and Dragons, Pandemic, The Voting Game)
Music: Soul, R&B ballads, soft rock, love songs
Stories: Romance and romantic comedies with emotional depth
Exercise/sports: Partner workouts (sweating together), group classes, dog walking
Other Activities: Hosting dinner parties, long therapeutic phone calls, baking/cooking, crafts, attending support circles, spa days, journaling feelings that aren't theirs, Saying “I love you” to people, animals, and plants
Ideal Purpose and Life Journey for The Codependent Asshole
The ultimate life purpose for a Codependent Asshole is to nurture relationships rooted in authenticity and mutual empowerment that produces soulful love without possession.
Along the way they will gain momentum and insight by learning emotional boundaries and modeling them, spending time alone intentionally and fruitfully, and applying their compassion to occupations for which appreciation is seldom available as fuel. With a deep understanding of “self” and a wise observance of the boundaries of others, their caregiving talents become the destination that satisfies as opposed to a path to love and admiration.
Their successful journey begins by clinging to one or more connections, dismissive of toxic behaviors, attempting to weaponize their sadness for attention, or rationalizing unrequited loves. In the end, they cultivate inclusive communities and discover they have the power to create soulful relationships that do not roller coaster with their measure of self-worth. They evolve as angels who dwell above the realms of guilt or insecurity, able to identify the people who can fulfill their needs and help build mutually beneficial bonds absent the assumptions or conditions that lead to disappointment. They are able to say no without guilt. And they are able to teach others like themselves to do the same.